Self confidence is staple to living a happy and successful life. Your mannerisms will alter the way people react to you in all different environments from your work, your gym and even walking down the street. It can be extremely difficult to work in an environment where you don't feel confident. At school, if you aren't confident you may risk being bullied or picked on. In the work place, often confidence is associated with success. Someone who is confidence and is able to assert themselves will be promoted faster and get paid more. In fighting, confidence is critical. You can not show that you are nervous, or even hurt because it will give you opponent hints and then they will take advantage of this.
Here are 4 Martial Art Principles that is often used to help develop confidence in students. These principles are transferable to other aspects of life.
1 - Eliminate Negative Language
Positive language generates positive feelings. It has been proven that positivity is contagious, the chemicals that are released when you are positive spreads to others. What you say affects how other people feel. When someone asks how you are doing; try to respond with a happy smile and an excited Great! Since positivity is contagious people would rather be around someone who is happy. Studies have shown that when you speak negatively, even if it has nothing to do with you it leaves a negative feeling associated with you in your audience's minds.
"People won't remember what you said or did, but they will remember how you made them feel" - Maya Angelou
This doesn't mean that you ignore all problems in life and become some type of oblivious happiness guru; even when issues arise in your life, you can be positive and address them in a systematic manner. In fact when you control your mental state to be positive, relaxed and in a resourceful state, you will find that you can find solutions much easier and appear confident.
2 - Set Definite goals
When you have an objective it gives you something to concentrate and focus all your efforts towards. You are not wandering aimlessly and this gives people the impression that you are confident because you know what you want. When you have free time, you won't call your friends looking for something to do. Your entire life should be resolved around achieving your goals, not only will this help you reach your goals, but also it will help change how others view you. People will naturally associate adjectives with you such as: driven, confident, hard working, dedicated, etc. In addition, if you dedicate yourself for a few years in a way that other won't, you can live life the way most people can't.
3 - Focus on the present and the future
The only time you should focus on the past is to see how far you have come, or to look at the past to learn from your mistakes. Things happen, failures occur and you should not get stuck on it. Focusing on the present allows you to be able to focus on the now, while planning for the future. Never regret the past. Everything that ever happened in your life, wether you deem it as a mistake, a great decision, or an achievement are all steps you took to be where you are today. You can not connect the dots of your life going forward, so everything that happened is a step in the right direction.
By focusing on the present, and the future other will associate you with being confident and naturally be drawn towards you.
4- Be aware of how you present yourself.
In the ring, your image can win a fight for you. Mike Tyson was famous for intimidating his opponents by creating a ferocious and ruthless public image. During his come-back fight against Peter Mcneeley, Even during the pre-fight interviews, Peter Mcneeley was speaking as if he were scared. Peter's plan was to not stare at Mike in the eye because he was scared to look at him. As the referee brought them into the centre of the ring, Peter made the mistake of taking a quick glance and he was so intimidated by Mike Tyson's size that he lost the fight right there. He lost the fight in 86 seconds.
Self Perception is a very important concept to be aware of. A lot of times people think that a confident person does not care about what other people think of them. This is true, however they must be aware of how they present themselves to other. How other people perceive you will affect the way they react to you. You shouldn't care what others think of you, but if you are not careful how you present yourself, then this may affect how others act around you and especially towards you. For example, a supervisor that is very strict and loud may not care what others think. However, when it comes time for him to try to get promoted he will care what others think because other people may view him as arrogant and a poor leader.
Michael Zhang is a key contributor at Driven Fighters. He is passionate about the fighters mentality and motivating other people. He has associated walking into the boxing gym as the day his life changed. His story shows that with hard work anything is possible. Having taken himself from being labeled by his high school teachers as a failure and almost dropping out to opening numerous businesses and graduating with his Master Degree in Engineering (University of Toronto). At just 18 years old, he was featured on CH News, and awarded the Young Entrepreneur Award. His passion and desire to help others made him a perfect example of what a driven fighter is. He has 20+ fights including a national amateur tournament belt.